Wednesday, June 7, 2006

The Keys to My Heart-Part 2

My thoughts...

You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.
There is some sexiness to that, however they need to be clean.

In love, you feel the most alive when things are straight-forward, and you're told that you're loved.
Doesn't everyone like to be told that they are loved? If not, I definitely do, especially at the most unexpected moments. As for being straight-forward, that is where the truthfulness comes in. If we can't express our honesty, how are we suppose to manage a relationship?

You'd like to your lover to think you are optimistic and happy.
Is the glass as half-full or half-empty? I live each day for a full life, not an empty life. Life is too short not to be happy.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please.
Emotional-well that was me at one time. However, learning how to deal with your emotions and being able to communicate those feelings clearly and consistently are important in a relationship. Moody-either take it or leave it. I'm definitely not turned on by moodiness. Difficult to please-as long as I am a partner in the relationship, there should be no "pleasing".
And if your difficult to please, well then, you will never be happy.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.
Whether a relationship is for a reason, season, or lifetime, it should be long-lasting. Aren't people suppose to grow with one another? Learn from each other?

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.
I'm definitely not a cheater. There are no what if's, that's, or whatsoever's. I was raised with a high level of values and morals. As for breaking a commitment-it is definitely a difficult decision to make.

You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.
Hmmm, I need to contemplate on this one.

In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.
I can definitely admit that I thirst for love and that I am not falling for it easily.


Da Gal said...

Hello there butterflygrl!!! I am so happy to have some time to come visit you. Thanks for all of the support and encouragement you've offered me lately. It has been so helpful and I really appreciate you for taking the time to do so and for being so kind.

I love how you took the survey information and laid it out. I love your answers. Enjoy your summer and I'll hopefully be back real soon.

Tab said...

Heck no your not going to fall for anyone easily..but you can look:P
Thanks for sharing ~

sirreene said...

So is anyone fiddling with the keys right now?

butterflygirl said...

da gal...good to hear from you

tab...always can look one's fiddling

Eduardo said...

Doesn't every human being thirst for love? Even those that have it continue to thirst for it, right? I mean, no one says, "I am done with love."

Except me. HA!

I mean, I am done with love, but that doesn't mean I don't want it at all. I just would rather get it from my kids or my family or my friends. Its not the same as romantic love, but that sort of glittery gewgaw love passes anyway.

That passing love is only designed to get you to the deep sort. I mean its just the ticket onto the train, its not the whole ride and certainly not the destination. The deep sort of love that every human needs is so far beyond that romantic (and truth be told, lusty) business that I believe it is squarely in the realm of the will.

In other words, I don't think people "fall into" anything. I don't even think of love as a "feeling" as much as I think it a simple decision. I decide to love. With that sort of decision comes a sort of sweet surrender, of giving yourself over, in some fashion at least, to another human being. From that comes a sense of being more important than a solitary human trudging through the path of your days.

In the service of love, I will decide to put aside my wants to meet the needs of another human being. In the service of love I decide to weigh my needs even, against another's wants. Not to necessarily sacrifice them, but to be willing to re-evaluate them in light of this other person's will, this other person's desire.

This is why being unfaithful seems simply impossible to me. No matter how attractive another person is, nothing abrogates my decision making process.

Maybe I am "emotionally available" as it was once charged, but if so, that emotional detachment allows me to view my emotions with some level of suspicion. It makes my decision toward belonging more important and more powerful than my sense of longing.