Thursday, June 29, 2006
Tuesday, June 27, 2006
TRUST
As I have entered into this new journey in my life I have one HUGE obstacle in front of me, TRUST. My TRUST I had in others was shattering to my heart. It broke in just one snap. Once TRUST is broken, it is usually difficult to rebuild.
How do we know in life:
How do we know in life:
- how to TRUST someone?
- when to TRUST people?
- why to TRUST that person?
Through life's experiences, I can honestly say that I cannot answer these questions. Whether it is for love, friendship, workplace, or even family, my TRUST "guard" will always be up. The only person who has your back, is you, yourself. I was told that seven years ago, and I haven't forgotten it (except for the whole love thing, but that is a long story).
What does TRUST mean to you?
For myself, I would have to say that TRUST is:
- confiding in someone with my innermost thoughts, desires, secrets
- believing that the person is truthful to not only me, but to themselves as well
- depending on the individual in any type of situation
- relying on one to use their judgments in the most appropriate manner
This is a lesson for me so that I am able to answer those questions of TRUST. However I must say, that my TRUST light often flashes with c-a-u-t-i-o-n.
~flygirl~
Monday, June 26, 2006
A Pet Bird
Okay, so you can't cuddle a bird. Wrestle, well, maybe that is a trainable skill. However, Petey loves to be petted, he especially likes to have the back of his neck rubbed. I never knew how soft feathers of a bird could be. Did I mention that I am suppose to bathe him once a week? It supposedly helps with the dander.
We have spent quite some time getting to know one another. As hard as it was to let Petey be so he could adjust to his new environment, I had to open the cage. Of course he became a jail bird immediately.
The little guy is trying to teach Petey to talk. He has gotten Petey to stand on his hand. Next task for my little man is trying to get Petey to stand on his shoulder. Just wait until the droppings happen to come out when Petey is on him!
My little man insists that Petey likes him more than me. I can handle that. Let's see how long the kid keeps interest in the bird. So far the relationship has been good. Cockatiels are known to be friendly. He was a hand fed bird, so he enjoys eating from our hands! I must say, I get a kick out of it too. So yes, he is already spoiled.
I have cleaned up more seed from my little man than Petey. In fact, Petey has done rather well in that department. I barely have any seed on the floor.
So I have invested approximately the next ten years with Petey. All I have to do is feed him, give him water, bathe him, clean the cage, play with him, and who knows what else. This is a total new experience for me. I hope I survive.
~flygirl~
We have spent quite some time getting to know one another. As hard as it was to let Petey be so he could adjust to his new environment, I had to open the cage. Of course he became a jail bird immediately.
The little guy is trying to teach Petey to talk. He has gotten Petey to stand on his hand. Next task for my little man is trying to get Petey to stand on his shoulder. Just wait until the droppings happen to come out when Petey is on him!
My little man insists that Petey likes him more than me. I can handle that. Let's see how long the kid keeps interest in the bird. So far the relationship has been good. Cockatiels are known to be friendly. He was a hand fed bird, so he enjoys eating from our hands! I must say, I get a kick out of it too. So yes, he is already spoiled.
I have cleaned up more seed from my little man than Petey. In fact, Petey has done rather well in that department. I barely have any seed on the floor.
So I have invested approximately the next ten years with Petey. All I have to do is feed him, give him water, bathe him, clean the cage, play with him, and who knows what else. This is a total new experience for me. I hope I survive.
~flygirl~
Saturday, June 24, 2006
Meet "Petey"
Here he is, Petey.
Of course he was an unplanned purchase.
I have never been too fond of birds, however I am already getting attached.
Friday, June 23, 2006
Fun Friday
Wow! Can you believe June is almost over? Where has the time gone? Oh, I remember, I was in a state of depression for about three weeks before I started to enjoy my summer vacation. As I have stated in a prior post, June is a very difficult month for me. I have managed and have been given the strength I needed to be courageous each day.
This week my little man and I took an adventure (it was also a play-date) to the water park. He had so much fun, it convinced me to get the season pass. It will definitely be used. Maybe I can get a tan this summer? Yeah, right. I'm one of the few Puerto Ricans who burn and do not tan, go figure.
I managed to scrapbook several pages. My little guy had reminded me I hadn't done his fall soccer pictures yet. I can thank him for trying to keep me on the ball.
We've been doing lots of reading. One night I stayed up til 3:00 in the morning reading, Can You Keep a Secret? I just couldn't put it down. This is the same author who wrote the shopaholic series books.
Well, I need to get my little man's baseball pants washed for his game tomorrow. Nothing like waiting until the last minute, huh? My reading of my blogroll will have to wait until tomorrow.
Enjoy your weekend~
~flygirl~
This week my little man and I took an adventure (it was also a play-date) to the water park. He had so much fun, it convinced me to get the season pass. It will definitely be used. Maybe I can get a tan this summer? Yeah, right. I'm one of the few Puerto Ricans who burn and do not tan, go figure.I managed to scrapbook several pages. My little guy had reminded me I hadn't done his fall soccer pictures yet. I can thank him for trying to keep me on the ball.
We've been doing lots of reading. One night I stayed up til 3:00 in the morning reading, Can You Keep a Secret? I just couldn't put it down. This is the same author who wrote the shopaholic series books.Well, I need to get my little man's baseball pants washed for his game tomorrow. Nothing like waiting until the last minute, huh? My reading of my blogroll will have to wait until tomorrow.
Enjoy your weekend~
~flygirl~
Wednesday, June 21, 2006
Polls are Still Open
FYI-the polls are still open! Number Twelve has requested that I keep them open. For those who are not aware, please see the previous post regarding the poll.
A special thanks to those who have voted so far. The comments are appreciated as well, especially by Number Twelve.
Yes, Tab, I was amazed too at the fact that I was able to add a poll. That was the 3rd one I had tried and succeeded at adding to Blogger. (Number Twelve was impressed as well, weren't ya honey?).
I was fortunate to get a call from no other than Smooch Dog also known as Safety Officer aka Mr. Number Twelve. (I am unable at the moment to get his picture up.) He of course called about the poll. Wow, I'm getting famous here, especially from a man who doesn't even read his wife's blog. He says he is going to cast a vote, we'll see. I gotta love him for calling. He has always been behind me since the whole "divorce" thing. Who would have known that my oldest and dearest friend would marry someone that attended the same high school as me?
For those of us bloggers who are addicted to our own blogs as well as others, we can understand Number Twelve's contemplation. Sometimes we get too wrapped up in commenting like checking to see who has responded to our writing, what they have to say, or even just to see how many comments have been left. Add having a stat counter to that, and well, a little more frustration can occur. As a blogger we can see how many people visit our site, where they are visiting from, links that lead them to us, etc, etc, etc.
Number Twelve, we have discussed this often and I have no more to say except that I support whatever decision you make. Although you do know darn well that I sure ain't gonna click that "e-mail me" link.
A special thanks to those who have voted so far. The comments are appreciated as well, especially by Number Twelve.
Yes, Tab, I was amazed too at the fact that I was able to add a poll. That was the 3rd one I had tried and succeeded at adding to Blogger. (Number Twelve was impressed as well, weren't ya honey?).
I was fortunate to get a call from no other than Smooch Dog also known as Safety Officer aka Mr. Number Twelve. (I am unable at the moment to get his picture up.) He of course called about the poll. Wow, I'm getting famous here, especially from a man who doesn't even read his wife's blog. He says he is going to cast a vote, we'll see. I gotta love him for calling. He has always been behind me since the whole "divorce" thing. Who would have known that my oldest and dearest friend would marry someone that attended the same high school as me?
For those of us bloggers who are addicted to our own blogs as well as others, we can understand Number Twelve's contemplation. Sometimes we get too wrapped up in commenting like checking to see who has responded to our writing, what they have to say, or even just to see how many comments have been left. Add having a stat counter to that, and well, a little more frustration can occur. As a blogger we can see how many people visit our site, where they are visiting from, links that lead them to us, etc, etc, etc.
Number Twelve, we have discussed this often and I have no more to say except that I support whatever decision you make. Although you do know darn well that I sure ain't gonna click that "e-mail me" link.
Tuesday, June 20, 2006
Let's Take a Poll
Number Twelve, the one who intrigued me into blogging, has decided to turn off her comments.
She is quoted:
"By turning off my comments, I'm able to better focus on my message and not others public responses (I'll fix that email link so you can give me your personal reactions)."
Yada, yada, yada.
In my opinion it doesn't matter if you have 1 or 11 comments. I know you valued what your readers had to say.
So let's take a poll. (Now she is going to kick my ass.)
She is quoted:
"By turning off my comments, I'm able to better focus on my message and not others public responses (I'll fix that email link so you can give me your personal reactions)."
Yada, yada, yada.
In my opinion it doesn't matter if you have 1 or 11 comments. I know you valued what your readers had to say.
So let's take a poll. (Now she is going to kick my ass.)
Monday, June 19, 2006
Summer Vacation Update
Wow-what can I say? Spending time with a 4 year-old who is almost 5 is just so much fun, not to mention exhausting!
We have our pajama days. Who likes to get dressed and ready for the day when you have no place to go?
We've been to Starbucks, quite a few times. I just can't resist that banana coconut frappuccino. I have been hooked on these banana fraps since they came out.
I need to mention I broke it the first day I tried putting my bike on it. The dealer was so great and replaced the arm for me.
My little guy is pretty good with the camera, huh?
We watched Number Twelve's three girls. My little man was a great helper. He is very protective of the twins.
We have had lunch at McDonald's with friends or just the two of us.
Let's not forget going to the show. We went and saw the movie Cars. We also went to the old theatre in town and saw Hoot.
Play-dates have been occurring as well as constantly being scheduled.
It has been great!
We have our pajama days. Who likes to get dressed and ready for the day when you have no place to go?
We've been to Starbucks, quite a few times. I just can't resist that banana coconut frappuccino. I have been hooked on these banana fraps since they came out.
I need to mention I broke it the first day I tried putting my bike on it. The dealer was so great and replaced the arm for me.Once the bike rack came in I took my bike for a complete overhaul. Long story short...I got a new bike.
And I just love it!!! It rides so nice, much better than my older bike. Not to mention this bike is much easier to put on the bike rack.
T-Ball has started. Practices are on Mondays. My little guy has been moved up to the 6-7 year old age group. He plays at the local YMCA, so it is not a competitive league. His skills are just more advanced than the younger age group.
We attend the story hour at the library on Wednesdays. This enables me to get some quiet reading time, you know without any disturbances.
My little man has ventured on the slip and slide. As you can see he has had fun.
If only he enjoyed swimming lessons as much as he does the slip and slide. Lessons are on Thursdays and he is getting much better.
My little guy is pretty good with the camera, huh?
We watched Number Twelve's three girls. My little man was a great helper. He is very protective of the twins.
We have had lunch at McDonald's with friends or just the two of us.
Let's not forget going to the show. We went and saw the movie Cars. We also went to the old theatre in town and saw Hoot.
Play-dates have been occurring as well as constantly being scheduled.
It has been great!
Sunday, June 18, 2006
I'm Still Here
Life has been busy, yet it has been good.
My blogroll takes precedence over me writing a post. By the time I am done reading and commenting, I am too tired to write. I have been working on a summer vacation post. I have a few more pictures I need to upload, yet I'm not having much luck.
I want to wish all of you fathers out there a Happy Father's Day!!!
My blogroll takes precedence over me writing a post. By the time I am done reading and commenting, I am too tired to write. I have been working on a summer vacation post. I have a few more pictures I need to upload, yet I'm not having much luck.
I want to wish all of you fathers out there a Happy Father's Day!!!
Thursday, June 15, 2006
June
First of all, I would like to thank all of you for your most wonderful, inspiring, loving, and caring thoughts. I was not aware when I started blogging the relationships that were going to develop and I am truly thankful for all of you.
I am glad today marks the half-way point of this month. June is just too difficult for me.
I am glad today marks the half-way point of this month. June is just too difficult for me.
- I was a June bride.
- My marriage was dissolved.
- This year would have been the 10 year wedding anniversary.
- An ex-niece's birthday.
- A former sister-in-law's birthday.
- The ex-spouse's birthday.
- My ex-nephew graduated from high school. I tutored him when he was in 1st grade.
Anything related to my ex as well as his family is heartbreaking for me. For 12 years I was part of a family that I thought loved me. When the process of divorce began, the threats as well as their non-communication showed me where their loyalty laid and it certainly wasn't with me. Until the real truth is revealed I will always be the "bad" person to them. BTW, I am doing much better this year than I did last year.
On the upside, my father's birthday is today. We plan on taking him to a Railcats baseball game early next week. Unfortunately my son will have to wait until next weekend to celebrate Father's Day with him.
Today I'm going to post a grateful list...
- life and my health-ability to live each day to the fullest
- my son-who keeps me active
- my pastors-who care about me
- prayers-He does answer
- my parents-for the support they continue to give
- my computer-so I can blog
- friends-who share their joys with me
- naps-refreshing my son and I
- DVD's-so I can blog
- sunny days-which gives me happiness
Tuesday, June 13, 2006
D.I.V.O.R.C.E.D.
D-Divorced.
Officially one year ago today I became a statistic, a divorcee, a single mother, a dysfunctional family, a failure.
I-Individualized.
I have become "me" once again. No more manipulation. No more grooming. Okay, so I'm not 100% "me" yet, but I am on my way there.
V-Victorious.
It may not have seemed like a victory, however my life is being fulfilled. I have my own home, I have my own car, I pay my own bills...things I was told I would never be able to accomplish.
O-Over-comer.
I will overcome anything that is put in front of me. I am a fighter and will strive to make the best of any poor situations.
R-Resilient.
I have always been a flexible person. Yet, the journey I have been going through has stretched me thin. I will continue to adjust to the changes that occur in my life.
C-Courageous.
I am strong in what I do and say. I ask God daily to give me the courage I need so that I can act bravely in my actions.
E-Encouraged.
Not only am I encouraged by my family and friends, but I am inspired by His Spirit.
D-Determined.
I am determined to be the best parent I can possibly be. I am determined to forget statistics. I am determined to raise a functional family. I am determined to succeed.
And on this 1 year anniversary of my divorce, please give a shout out to Sober Chick who is celebrating her 1 year birthday of sobriety! Happy Birthday to you, SC!!!
Officially one year ago today I became a statistic, a divorcee, a single mother, a dysfunctional family, a failure.
I-Individualized.
I have become "me" once again. No more manipulation. No more grooming. Okay, so I'm not 100% "me" yet, but I am on my way there.
V-Victorious.
It may not have seemed like a victory, however my life is being fulfilled. I have my own home, I have my own car, I pay my own bills...things I was told I would never be able to accomplish.
O-Over-comer.
I will overcome anything that is put in front of me. I am a fighter and will strive to make the best of any poor situations.
R-Resilient.
I have always been a flexible person. Yet, the journey I have been going through has stretched me thin. I will continue to adjust to the changes that occur in my life.
C-Courageous.
I am strong in what I do and say. I ask God daily to give me the courage I need so that I can act bravely in my actions.
E-Encouraged.
Not only am I encouraged by my family and friends, but I am inspired by His Spirit.
D-Determined.
I am determined to be the best parent I can possibly be. I am determined to forget statistics. I am determined to raise a functional family. I am determined to succeed.
And on this 1 year anniversary of my divorce, please give a shout out to Sober Chick who is celebrating her 1 year birthday of sobriety! Happy Birthday to you, SC!!!
Friday, June 9, 2006
Wednesday, June 7, 2006
The Keys to My Heart-Part 2
My thoughts...
You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.
There is some sexiness to that, however they need to be clean.
In love, you feel the most alive when things are straight-forward, and you're told that you're loved.
Doesn't everyone like to be told that they are loved? If not, I definitely do, especially at the most unexpected moments. As for being straight-forward, that is where the truthfulness comes in. If we can't express our honesty, how are we suppose to manage a relationship?
You'd like to your lover to think you are optimistic and happy.
Is the glass as half-full or half-empty? I live each day for a full life, not an empty life. Life is too short not to be happy.
You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please.
Emotional-well that was me at one time. However, learning how to deal with your emotions and being able to communicate those feelings clearly and consistently are important in a relationship. Moody-either take it or leave it. I'm definitely not turned on by moodiness. Difficult to please-as long as I am a partner in the relationship, there should be no "pleasing".
And if your difficult to please, well then, you will never be happy.
Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.
Whether a relationship is for a reason, season, or lifetime, it should be long-lasting. Aren't people suppose to grow with one another? Learn from each other?
Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.
I'm definitely not a cheater. There are no what if's, that's, or whatsoever's. I was raised with a high level of values and morals. As for breaking a commitment-it is definitely a difficult decision to make.
You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.
Hmmm, I need to contemplate on this one.
In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.
I can definitely admit that I thirst for love and that I am not falling for it easily.
You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.
There is some sexiness to that, however they need to be clean.
In love, you feel the most alive when things are straight-forward, and you're told that you're loved.
Doesn't everyone like to be told that they are loved? If not, I definitely do, especially at the most unexpected moments. As for being straight-forward, that is where the truthfulness comes in. If we can't express our honesty, how are we suppose to manage a relationship?
You'd like to your lover to think you are optimistic and happy.
Is the glass as half-full or half-empty? I live each day for a full life, not an empty life. Life is too short not to be happy.
You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please.
Emotional-well that was me at one time. However, learning how to deal with your emotions and being able to communicate those feelings clearly and consistently are important in a relationship. Moody-either take it or leave it. I'm definitely not turned on by moodiness. Difficult to please-as long as I am a partner in the relationship, there should be no "pleasing".
And if your difficult to please, well then, you will never be happy.
Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.
Whether a relationship is for a reason, season, or lifetime, it should be long-lasting. Aren't people suppose to grow with one another? Learn from each other?
Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.
I'm definitely not a cheater. There are no what if's, that's, or whatsoever's. I was raised with a high level of values and morals. As for breaking a commitment-it is definitely a difficult decision to make.
You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.
Hmmm, I need to contemplate on this one.
In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.
I can definitely admit that I thirst for love and that I am not falling for it easily.
Tuesday, June 6, 2006
The Keys to My Heart
| The Keys to Your Heart |
 You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.
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Sunday, June 4, 2006
Summer Has Just Begun
Summer vacation has only begun. This past Memorial Day weekend I went out and got my little man a bicycle, you know a "big boy" bike. He had the classic tricycle, however I knew it was time to get the "real thing". The salesman and I decided to go with a bigger bike as the smaller size would have only lasted him until the end of summer. Here are some pictures!
We were also able to fly the kite. Enjoy! We sure did.
We were also able to fly the kite. Enjoy! We sure did.
Friday, June 2, 2006
School's Out For Summer
Yes, it is official...summer vacation has begun. The last two days students have been taking their finals. Today was the last day for teachers. Grades were due by noon. Believe it or not, mine were done yesterday. For those that don't know me well, well, that was pretty darn good. I'm not sure what it is. I just work better when under pressure, you know, when it is all on the line. Whether it is a thrill of excitement or I just enjoy stressing myself out, who knows.
My little man and I have things planned, or should I say he has things planned. I'm sure he will keep me busy, and that is okay. This age is fun. Playing games, playing school, riding bikes, chalking up the sidewalk, and let's not forget taking naps.
Off to read...I'm home alone. The little guy went to the Sox game with his dad.
My little man and I have things planned, or should I say he has things planned. I'm sure he will keep me busy, and that is okay. This age is fun. Playing games, playing school, riding bikes, chalking up the sidewalk, and let's not forget taking naps.
Off to read...I'm home alone. The little guy went to the Sox game with his dad.
Thursday, June 1, 2006
Time to Slow Down
June 1st. Can you believe that the year 2006 is just about half way through? Kate had an astrology spot I visited today. I normally don't read my horoscope, however I visited the site she linked.
Running around, seeing people and doing things helps the time go by quickly, but why are you in such a rush? Take time to stop and smell the roses. There are things you may be missing out on, and a close relationship needs your attention. Make a lunch or dinner date and make up for some lost time. Despite what you think, your schedule can definitely be rearranged to free up all the time you'll need.
Is it finally time to slow down? My life has seem like it has been on the go for a couple of years now. It is all such a blur. Running here, going there, appointment scheduled, engagement time, class now, lessons later, practice soon, game am, etc.--will it ever end? Am I finally able to smell the roses in my new home as my new life grows? If so, I am totally looking forward to it. As a person who believes in living each day to the fullest the slowing of time definitely helps achieve that goal.
Running around, seeing people and doing things helps the time go by quickly, but why are you in such a rush? Take time to stop and smell the roses. There are things you may be missing out on, and a close relationship needs your attention. Make a lunch or dinner date and make up for some lost time. Despite what you think, your schedule can definitely be rearranged to free up all the time you'll need.
Is it finally time to slow down? My life has seem like it has been on the go for a couple of years now. It is all such a blur. Running here, going there, appointment scheduled, engagement time, class now, lessons later, practice soon, game am, etc.--will it ever end? Am I finally able to smell the roses in my new home as my new life grows? If so, I am totally looking forward to it. As a person who believes in living each day to the fullest the slowing of time definitely helps achieve that goal.
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